If you make a mistake, even an egregious one, what do you hope for if another person is involved? Think for a moment.

If you are like most humans you want to be given the benefit of the doubt, to be forgiven for your mistakes, you want to be given a second, or even third or fourth chance. You want to be able to fix your mistake if possible, or move on if not, and you don’t want the other person to hold a grudge. Now, take a moment to think about how you behave when someone else messes up. Think. Be honest with yourself. I’ll wait. Have you cut through your sanctimonious notions yet?

Most of us, if we’re honest, get pissed off, upset, angry, or enraged when someone else makes a mistake, and we don’t want to forgive them right away. We may judge them, say nasty things either out loud, or in our heads, act like a victim, behave in a passive-aggressive way and so on.